It’s Just Luck That I’m Making the Tea

June 25, 2021

Before the pandemic, I used to volunteer at a centre for refugees and asylum seekers. I made cups of tea and handed out sandwiches. One week, a friend who also volunteered told me that she came because her grandfather had been a refugee and she felt like it was just luck that she was making the tea and not drinking it. My grandfather was a refugee too. I felt the same.

Sometimes, if it wasn’t too busy, I’d chat with the people we were helping. As we sat together, they’d tell me how they made tea in their country, how having just the right amount of sugar or a bit of mint in the sweet liquid reminded them of home. They’d recall how some of their most precious belongings were things that we might have thought of as being inconsequential. Those conversations made me curious.  I began to wonder if there was more that connected those refugees with my grandfather than just luck. Perhaps there were also real things – objects – that connected them too.

My grandfather died before I was born so I couldn’t ask him what he brought with him when he travelled from Vienna to the UK in the 1930s. Instead, I began to research what refugees had brought from different countries at different times. In 2019, with the support of the Jewish arts and culture nonprofit Reboot, I began to explore the YIVO archives in New York. I was presented with piles of boxes filled with teddy bears and dolls, china and books, clothes and more. I began to see that the things that people brought with them before I was born were similar to the things that the drop in centre refugees had told me about and I began to see that no matter where people travelled from or to or when they did so, the objects that reminded them of home were similar.

That led me to work with Reboot to create a project we’ve titled, What Would You Bring? It is an online exhibition of refugee stories, told from the perspective of the things people brought with them on their journeys.

Whilst producing What Would You Bring?, we’ve spoken to many refugees who have generously shared their stories with us – and we’ve worked with an amazing group of artists who have beautifully brought those stories – and the objects – to life. Each story shares memories not only of what was brought, but also of what was left behind.  Together the stories show just how connected we all are.

The box I most clearly remember opening in the YIVO reading room was one that contained a teddy bear. There was a tag around its neck telling me that it had come to the USA from a Displaced Person’s camp in 1947. I had no idea who it belonged to — all I knew was that it was precious to the person who brought it. I imagined that my grandmother had probably had a similar bear when she was a child and thought of my own toys too. One of the stories that we feature is John Hajdu’s.   John’s story is quite remarkable – he survived Nazi occupation and a communist revolution escaping to the UK – and his teddy bear was the one constant in his life. His bear was not my YIVO bear – and yet I felt that they were connected, as both bears mattered so much to the people that owned them.

What Would You Bring? connects us with refugees – whenever they travelled and wherever they travelled from and to – telling their stories through the lens of the objects that they bring with them. We live in a time of consumerism, a time where we all have so much stuff. But imagine if you had to suddenly leave – what would you grab and take with you? It might be photos, or a toy, a piece of jewellery – or even a cup that you could use every time you made a cup of tea. I’d guess that whatever you might choose may be the same thing that a refugee might choose today or might have chosen in the past. That’s because those things matter to us as human beings – regardless of whether we are refugees or not.

I don’t know what my grandfather brought with him when he came from Vienna to the UK but this project can help us all discover what other grandfathers, parents, friends brought with them and allow us to share their objects and their stories. It can show that the objects we care about are objects that connect us – and that we may all have more in common than we initially thought we did.

Now we are asking you to share your family’s story with us.

Every family has a story. What are the objects that tell yours? “What Would You Bring” tells the stories of refugees from the perspective of the things they brought with them on their journey. Join Reboot to explore these stories in our online exhibition and then delve into your own family history by sharing the objects that are important to you. Learn more at and download an empty suitcase that’s ready for you to “pack” with your cherished positions and family heirlooms.

Featured Image: A Watercolor of a Teddy Bear